"I Will NOT Be Broken"
Above, Mike Valley at The T&F Outdoors Sports Shop from Edison, NJ. I bought my first Ugly Stick fishing pole from that store, which no longer exists.
I've known of pro skateboarder, Mike Vallely, since I was in elementary school and he was a teenager tearing up the streets and roof tops of Edison, NJ. I'm not sure there were any places Mike V did NOT skate. I've seen him skating roof tops, BMX ramps, the walls of buildings and anything else that was in his way.
I began to lift the same way Mike skated, lifting anything that was on the ground in front of me and around me.
Above, getting my new street surfer skateboard from world famous skateboard shop, SHUT NYC, with Jonny Hinds & Gavin VanVlack in Alphabet City / East Village
Although he's a pro skater, I can relate to his mindset almost identically. He doesn't care for winning trophies, he skates for his love, passion and self expression. Skating is PART of him, just like lifting and training is part of me.
He doesn't give a shit what others think of him, neither do I & neither should you. I am NOT trying to appease big companies, sponsors, etc. with my training style, the equipment I use, where or how I train. The Underground came about as I either left or got kicked out of most gyms I trained in.
They told me....
"Don't drop the weights...."
"Don't wear work boots...."
"No chalk beyond this point...."
"We don't play music like that...."
"You're too loud....."
Training is an art form, it's YOUR art, and art has NO boundaries, so do NOT allow others to set boundaries for you.
I KNOW there are haters hatin' on me who are out and about in droves. There are probably people telling you NOT to train a certain way, NOT to do this or that. Your training is YOUR meditation, your time to lose yourself and find yourself. If you allow haters or control freaks to alter your training then you're allowing them to control YOU.
Some hate from jealousy, others hate with intention to control me or slow me down yet none have the ability to stop or control me.
That's how ya gotta deal with naysayers and haters - just keep charging, keep doing what YOU know is right in your heart to do.
When I lift, it is my self expression, it is my thoughts, feelings and instincts being expressed. This is why I don't care as much for the numbers as I used to. Instead, I chase the experience, not the numbers. Strange but true. That is me. It doesn't have to be you. Ya gotta connect with what sits right in your own heart.
When I listen to Mike's interview below, I think to myself not caring about being hated by others in the industry. Yes, it happens. My goal is never deterred by those who have issues with what I do or how I do it. My goal stays on target, helping others experience the powerful life changes I have gotten from training, and, if you're a Strength Coach or aspire to become one, my goal is to help you become the best YOU, not to copy someone else and lead yourself down a dead end road.
I was asked what or who guides my BIG decisions when it comes to business.
My answer was simple, no hesitation at all: My family, my heart and my gut instincts.
I ask myself if my decisions will make my family proud and if I can stand tall and go to sleep at night with pride, knowing I did the right thing.
Ask yourself: Who shapes your training? Who or what shapes your decision making? If you're trying to make people happy who truly have NO clout in your life and deep down you are not absolutely positive about your decisions, then you've chosen the wrong path.
What's the bottom line? Be YOU, not someone else or who/what someone wants you to be.
Two Renegades from Edison..... Although Mike is a die hard skater he actually trains damn hard as well, very much like an Undergrounder does. And although I train the way Mike skates, I too have a passion for my skateboards. I ride them often. I'll be buying The Elephant Long Board, and, ironically, Mike's long boards are called the 'NOSIDE", which spelled backwards is Edison, the town we both grew up in yet aggressively sought to escape from.
I don't always have tips or specific points laid out in stone for you EVERY time I write or make a video. The gist of this post is to do what I always encourage: follow your heart, trust your gut instincts, train for the mental AND the physical benefits. In the end, the only people who matter are those that love you and befriend you unconditionally, that means what 99% of people think of you means NOTHING.
Let me know your thoughts and drop a comment below.